Your fear of being seen
is holding you back
You feel frustrated and hot-faced every time you're passed up on an opportunity at work. You've taken training to advance in your career but still find that you are overlooked as an asset to your company. You have valuable information to share, strong opinions to debate about and long for genuine connection with others. Maybe you're an introvert and want to hone your communication skills in an effort to improve your relations with others in business and in life. It seems like it comes so easy to everyone else, but for you, it's a struggle. What do those people have that you don't? For starters, they have charisma, it's a seemingly innate ability to magnetize what they want and entice those around them to root for it to happen. Charisma stems from bold confidence and confidence is born of self-worth. The big question here is; if you don't value yourself, why should anyone else? Maybe you don't even realize how much your internal beliefs impact your performance.
If you have low self-worth, you may struggle with
the following issues (but not limited to):
- You have trouble voicing your opinions
- You always get stuck doing extra work because you aren't quite sure how to say no
- The opinions of others have the power to impact your entire day, usually negatively
- You often have thoughts driven by jealousy or envy
- You are fearful that you are not good enough
- You only show certain parts of yourself to certain people
- When you speak, no one can hear you and your voice gets lost among others
- You don't believe your situation could ever improve from what it is right now
- When you make a mistake you mutter insults to yourself; "I'm so stupid!"
- You resent the success of others because, damn-it, it should have been you
- You live in the past
- You hate trying new things in front of other people
- You take on tasks that no one asked you to perform
- You put others needs before your own (this is a great quality, but not when it's excessive)
- You have bold ideas but are afraid to share them with others
When you feel that you are being pushed over, it can be hard to admit that you don't value yourself, but perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing that most people struggle with outdated beliefs of their own capabilities. I was one of those people for most of my life. There are a boat load of painful moments that I could replay as vividly as if they were happening right now, moments that impacted my own self-worth. But I don't replay those memories anymore, I have since learned how to begin to forgive myself and the people involved in those painful social situations to allow myself space to move on. When we replay our past, our brains are wired to bring up the feelings associated with those memories. If they are difficult, you will feel those difficult emotions every time you think about that event, essentially we inflict those wounds again. Keeping ourselves hooked to the past will keep us from advancing in our future. Shameful events in our past can manifest as self-doubt in our every day life now.
There are small steps you can take to create big changes in the way you value yourself. It took me several years on anti-depressants, tons of therapy and coaching, and a whole lot of mindset shifting to be able to stand as tall as I do today. I'm here now to streamline the process for you and I'd love to hold your hand every step of the way. From stepping out of your feelings of worthlessness, to owning the personality you have masked for so long, the work that I do is geared towards reshaping your life to experience maximum ease of mind and major comfort in your body in all that you do.